Missing The Mark: How To Move Forward After Failure PART 2

Okay okay, let’s get the elephant out of the room….. Yessss it took me almost two years to publish this blog. 

So, what had happened was...I wrote it...didn’t like it….forgot about it... rediscovered it, and side-eyed past Monica for not publishing it.😒 

So here we are...two years later.... 

Also….so don’t kill me but ummm I rediscovered a few other blogs as well. 😬

Let’s call them the “Lost Files”. I should release them right? 

Yes…. No….. maybe so? 

Y’all let me know in the comment section below. 👇 

No, not here silly, at the end of the blog. 

Alright, let’s get back to it...

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Ever felt like you completely missed the mark on an assignment? 

Wait we did that already right?

Where were we again 🤔?

Oh yea, okay okay so basically, God put my husband and me in the right place at the right time to bless two women (server and manager at a pizza place). Most customers would grow angry and frustrated at their mistakes, but God was calling us to extend grace. We were there to bring his presence into that place and in turn, bring a sense of peace to the atmosphere. To let them know that they are not their mistakes or worst days (and neither are you sis, remember that 😉). We were there to let them know that even in this, their worst day, God was still there and loved them all the same.

Sadly, I failed that assignment!

I got so distracted by my own mess that I failed to complete the task God gave me. And if I’m honest, I was so torn up about that. See, I am a person who struggles with perfectionism…

I hate making mistakes!

No matter how big or small, I always feel like a complete failure and honestly, that’s the enemy’s plan. Because when I’m in that place he can stop me dead in my tracks with condemnation. He can make me feel as though it is the end of the world. 

But the truth of the matter is that no one is perfect but God himself! He knows we will fall short, heck even David, “the man after God’s heart”, made mistakes. Look at Paul he literally persecuted christrians, Jonah ran from the what God called him to do & was angry at the thought of God forgiving the city of Nineveh...he didn’t want them to repent and be saved. 😦 Goodness, I could go on and on and on. 

My point is, we’re in good company. And we serve a God who knows our today and tomorrow...He knew you would fail, give up, sin, etc. and yet...He still loves you! He still calls you His own and He is loving enough to not allow that failure to be in vain! 

And I'm grateful to say this failure wasn't in vain! Here are a few of my takeaways:

1. Remember that, God can and will use even our mistakes IF we let him.  

2. Keep our eye on the ball, if we notice the enemy is trying to trigger us expect him to use those with access/closest to us.
   

3. Remain focused on what God has shown us even in the midst of chaos and/or distraction.

Lastly, Do what God has said BEFORE we do anything else! (Ask for wisdom as to his timing first of course)

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As I sit here reading this after so much time has passed, I can see God’s grace over not just the ladies that night but over myself too. I’m able to see how He took even my “failure“ and used It!

[whispers] hate that it took me two years to realize it though 🥴

We say that we believe God is all-knowing and all-powerful, but yet sit in condemnation when we miss the mark as if God’s grace isn’t sufficient for us...as if He didn’t know what would happen...as if He can’t use even “this” for His glory.

I don’t know about y’all but condemnation comes for me the second I mess up! If you’re anything like me, sis we have to step out of that condemnation and stop beating ourselves up about ”it”. We accepted His free gift once, guess what....it’s available to us over and over and over we only need ask.

So lettuce, ask together

😂😂😂

I’m so sorry y’all I couldn’t resist. Okay, I’m for real this time, let’s release this thang to God!

Father, I’ve fallen short yet again! I’m so tired of falling Lord, I just want to be right with you!

I can’t even begin to understand:

• your unconditional love for me...but I accept it!

• your forgiveness for I’ve disobeyed, walked away, fallen 1 too many times....but I accept it!

• your grace and mercy when I am the one who deserved to be on that cross...but I accept it!

I’m so far from perfect Lord and yet you still choose me...I don’t understand it, but I know that you are Lord of Lords, that you see all and know all and somehow in your infinite wisdom still chose to die for me!

I’ve fallen over and over again and you pick me up each time Lord...please forgive me!

Forgive me for;

• choosing myself and most often my insecurity over who you say that I am

• for listening to the voice of the enemy and believing his lies over your truth

• for changing your plans to match my limited understanding

• for every time I’ve disobeyed and for every person you’ve had to pick back up as a result of my absence

Lord send help to those who I have left behind or dropped the ball on and give me the courage to go back for those who you have called me to mentor, walk out life with, and build up in your Kingdom.

Grant me the wisdom and discernment to know:

• where I am to be positioned RIGHT NOW

• what loose ends to bring to completion from past seasons

• what and who to leave in those past seasons

• how to walk forward in the position you’ve called/crafted/and prepared me for

Help me to no longer seek to be a hand in the body of Christ when you’ve crafted in every way to bear the burden of a foot. I ask for forgiveness for the burden my brothers and sisters have had to unfairly bear as “I got myself together” and came to a place of surrendering.

God, I surrender not just my will but my understanding of life, I place it before you at your alter and pick up your will for me and my life. I will no longer seek after what my brother or sister has, I will no longer envy their highlight reels, desiring the recognition their spiritual gifts bring and wanting anything but the life you’ve so graciously given me. I submit myself to your will God and I accept the free gift of forgiveness, no longer will I wallow in grief from my actions or inactions. I will trust that you can use even that for the good of those who are called according to your purpose.

Amen

The book of Romans does a phenomenal job of setting a solid foundation for our walk in Christ! When we battle with condemnation we need that to root us and ground us in God so that we are able to identify the lies of the enemy and combat them with God’s truth!

Will you join me in taking the time to jump back into Romans? You can go as fast or as slow as you need to. It’s about digesting the word not just getting through it.

I don't know about you but I digest it better when I listen to the audio version, I just put it on when driving or doing chores. It really helps get it in my spirit. But do whatever works for you to get it in your spirit sis, I promise you won’t regret it!

Please, please, please check in sis! Hold me accountable, let me know how it’s going for you, and how I can help you along the way...we’re in this together!

Love y’all!