Is it righteous to be right? PT 2

God has been working on me for a loooooooonnnnnnggggggg time, and yet I still get it wrong 🤦🏽‍♀️. I still come across some of the same lessons too...

Does that make me a “bad” Christian, nope! Just a human!

Gratefully, God doesn’t call me to be perfect. No, He calls me to repentance by the way in which He loves me! The way He forgives me and freely gives His mercy. There is nothing I can do in this lifetime to earn His sacrificial love, but I can honor Him by living a life submitted unto Him and modeled after Him. That means leading with love!

That makes me think of the verse talking about loving our neighbor. Do you know the verse I’m talking about? Check it out below:

It also makes me wonder:

• Am I doing a good job of loving others as I love myself?

• Am I leading with love?

• Is love the motive?

Sometimes! But if I’m honest, most times I have other motives. Sometimes well meaning, but still not stemming from a place of loving others.

You see, I’m a facts girl. I know some of you are looking around confused, because you thought I was a numbers person didn’t ya?!

You would be right, I am lol. But I’m even more so a facts driven person. It’s just my default to search out the facts, focus on them, point out any deviation from them, and seek to correct it....or should I say, correct the person 😬 because a fact is a fact right?!

Either it happened or it didn’t happen...it’s pretty black and white for me and I run from grey areas because I need clear cut answers and directions 🥴 (hence the “Stay the path” blog post)

Back to the topic at hand...

The situation isn’t always about the facts ( hard to believe, right!? )

Sometimes it’s just about being there for someone! Sometimes it’s about sitting in it with them! Sometimes it’s about extending grace instead of pointing out how their argument doesn’t hold up (did I mention I naturally debate as well...should have been a lawyer 🤦‍♀️).

Welp, facts are fine and dandy and I know God has a purpose for making me like this BUT He’s been teaching me to submit even this characteristic to Him BEFORE opening my mouth (this tongue is swift y’all!!!). Because, sometimes right doesn’t equal righteous!

Let me say that again for those in the back:

🗣Sometimes right doesn’t equal righteous!

God’s been teaching me to:

1. Stop

2. Put the facts down

3. Examine the situation

4. Look to Him and ask:

What’s your heart for them and this situation?

Do they need correction of what’s factual?

Do they need grace?

Do they need silence?

Do they need tools to fix this thang?

Or Do they need me to be willing to walk with them through the bullet and debri tattered battlefield, instead?

“Give me your heart for this God! And help me to value people over facts! Help me to be righteous instead of seeking to be right!”

Sadly, today I failed! I was more concerned about getting the correct info out there, which meant ignoring the stop sign right in front of my face.

Let me tell you sis, there are consequences for our actions and sadly sometimes the consequence is that we hurt someone...

Today I valued facts over a friend and for that I’m sorry! I NEVER want her to hurt or to even give the enemy room to torment her, ever! But that’s a consequence of disobedience.

Don’t get me wrong I know that I know that I know that, God can heal her and protect her...but I should have had that same faith knowing He can and will deliver the information in His timing and in His way. But in my haste to get the correct info out there, I ignored Him telling me stop🛑 , do not enter 🚫! #hardlessonlearned #sosorrysis

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So, sis tell me...are you leading with love today?

In what ways is God calling you to lay down your own understanding inorder to love someone well?

Until next time...plz learn from my mistakes, choose righteousness over rightness!

And to my dear friend...I love you and I’m sorry!

Love y’all